Through the Fire

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Must be jelly cuz Jam don’t shake like that!!

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It was hot last weekend. Now it’s a fond memory as the sun isn’t out yet and it’s a bit chilly this morning, a typical weather pattern for Central California near the Coast. Last Saturday I went dancing and then to an outdoor music/art/celebration of our local river. The sun was beating down. I was happy to be in a sleeveless dress. I did wear some short leggings underneath as the dress is a bit short for my comfort. Other years in hot weather, I have been too self conscious to wear something sleeveless. I find this such an interesting phenomenon.

Look what I found at the bottom of the first Google page for underarm jiggle. Do you see anything that says anything positive ? or how to accept the jiggle ? how to feel ok about the jiggle ? No, and isn’t that a shame.

 Two years ago, I did a video series, Body Positivity A – Z. J is for Jiggle. Here is that video and you can find the rest of the series on my Vimeo Account.
 I have to say, I love how curly my hair is in this video!!
As is often the case, I went to my Facebook pals to see how they felt about baring their bodies in the summer time. I got the full range of replies, from a full range of ages and body sizes. I was happy to see how many of them said, Fuck it, I wear what I want and if someone doesn’t like it, don’t look, or words to that effect. The F word was in full force though. I have friends who aren’t afraid to use it. Several live where it gets pretty hot and they bare their arms and legs, some more joyfully than others. The arms were a common area of discomfort and many choose to keep them covered. Some are uncomfortable showing their knees. Only a few sounded truly comfortable with themselves. I know how my mood and feelings about myself change radically in a heart beat, so on a different day I’m sure I would get different answers.
We are not taught to be comfortable in our skins, to be comfortable in our clothes, to be carefree. I get reminded of this at times such as that Facebook conversation. Women in their 40’s, 50’s, 60’s, still uncomfortable. There is something very wrong with that.
I would be remiss if I didn’t report the answer from two male friends who responded with such love and respect for women, and with an undertone of righteous anger. They wish women would just wear what makes us feel good, whether we are hot or cold, young or old, thin or fat. Shave if you want, don’t shave if you don’t want. Be comfortable. Have fun. Wise words.
and this one…
I understand the hesitation.  I understand the shame. I’ve been ridiculed and harassed about my body. I’ve had broken skin and rash from my thighs rubbing together. I’ve been told, ” No one wants to see that!”. I also have known the joy of wearing something that I love, and feeling beautiful. I have been told by thin people that they like my bathing suit, that they wish they had one like it. I enjoyed dancing the other day in the hot sun and the freedom I had in my loose fitting, cool sundress. I love color and patterns and can rock a pair of leopard print leggings just like Rod Steward in his disco era. We’re all works in progress. I challenge you ( and myself) to push the envelope just a little. See what happens. I’m thinking about getting a 2 piece bathing suit and at least wearing it in my backyard. When it’s hot and sunny, I’m going to keep wearing a sleeveless sundress. I own three of them. What can you do to accept and embrace the beauty of your body ? Take a chance and let me know what happens, or doesn’t. Share in the comments here, or you can email me at
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